Since I’ve seen some cis people (heh) complaining about this lemme talk about why I say stuff like “cis people do X” instead of “some cis people do X.” Note I’m just speaking for myself here, not trying to speak for trans* people in general.
My problem with saying “some cis people” when talking about transphobia and transmisogyny is that it implies that the problem is just a few bad apples, and most cis people are perfectly fine. I don’t really think that’s the case. Certainly the most overt and violent actions against trans people are only done by a few people.
But it’s not just a few cis people who are pushing kids into gender stereotypes from the moment they’re born. It’s not just a few cis people who tell their kids “you can’t do X, that’s for girls/boys.” It’s not just a few cis people who don’t use the right pronouns for trans* people. It’s not just a few cis people who make trans jokes, or laugh at them. It’s not just a few cis people who aren’t hiring trans* people, or letting them rent houses or apartments. It’s not just a few cis people who care more about make sure trans* people treat cis people well then making sure cis people treat trans* people well (or even decently). And it’s not just a few cis people who are silent on these and other issues that affect trans* people.
So the reason I say “cis people” instead of “some cis people” is that I think most cis people are complicit in oppression and discrimination against trans* people. Not in a big way for most of them, and I don’t think it makes them horrible people or anything. But I’m not going to pretend it’s a problem of a few individuals, rather than a systematic problem.
(Just as a final note, this applies to me as well. As a white person I am complicit in racism to the extent that I am silent about racism or do racist things, even if they’re microaggressions. Jsut to be clear that this isn’t only a problem with cis people.)
To add on, when you add the ‘some’, it’s an easy way for a cis person to look at a post about transphobia, transmisogyny or cissexism and say “Oh! I’m not like that. Only SOME cis people are, and I’m not one of them.”
Removing the ‘some’ from the phrase doesn’t give cis people room to excuse their own actions. It forces them to really think “Hey, do /I/ say cissexist things or try and force cissexist things on those around me? Maybe I should pay more attention to what I say.”
'Some' statements get us nowhere, and allow cis people a loophole to ignore what we're saying, because after all, it IS only 'some'.
- liking a piece of media does not automatically mean you think it is perfect or agree with its creators
- even if you are not openly critical of it
- because you don’t HAVE to be openly critical of it
- there is an enormous difference between being an apologist for something and wanting to dwell on the good parts of a thing you like because it makes you happy, please stop conflating these two things
- not talking about the flaws of a thing does not mean you do not recognize the flaws of a thing
- nobody has to apologize for liking what they like and nobody should be shamed for liking a thing
- your fave is problematic too
- you are not a better person than someone just because your favorite piece of media is less problematic than theirs
- you aren’t